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The Wisest People Who Ever Lived

The Wisest People Who Ever Lived

Meaning Of Life

Since ancient times, philosophers have been preoccupied with the big questions: What does it mean to live a good life? What is happiness? Does human life have a purpose or end goal? And each great thinker, from Cicero to Heidegger to Emerson, have tried to bring us closer to the answers.
Jean-Paul Sartre once said, "Everything has been figured out, except how to live." These great historical thinkers may not have come to a consensus on the nature of happiness or the human experience, but their wisdom can help all of us come to our own definition of success and happiness.
Below, 11 timeless pieces of wisdom on what it means to live well.
Aristotle
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“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence," Aristotle wrote.
The ancient Greek philosopher came up with one of the most famous definitions of happiness, eudaimonia, or human flourishing. By this theory of self-actualization, personal well-being and happiness are the highest goals that we can strive for.
Martin Heidegger
For German phenomenologist Martin Heidegger, a good life could was not possible unless you were living authentically, directing your life on your own terms, rather than following the blueprints set by others.
“Anyone can achieve their fullest potential, who we are might be predetermined, but the path we follow is always of our own choosing," sais Heidegger. "We should never allow our fears or the expectations of others to set the frontiers of our destiny."
Jean-Paul Sartre
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Sarte may have been most famous for saying "Hell is other people," but the French existentialist thinker also had some keen insights on happiness and the meaning of human existence. Freedom, he said, was the highest goal we could aspire to.
"Freedom is what you do with what's been done to you," said Sartre.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
To Emerson, the early American Transcendentalist thinker, taking each day in stride -- as unburdened as possible by worries about the past and future -- was the best route to a life well-lived.
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can," said Emerson. "Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
Albert Camus
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For French existential philosopher and novelist, over-thinking and over-analyzing can make us miss the moment.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of," said Camus. "You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
Epicurus
“Of all the means to insure happiness throughout the whole life, by far the most important is the acquisition of friends," said the Hellenic philosopher Epicurus.
The Athenian philosopher believed that friendship, more than anything else, contributed to the development of a healthy and fulfilling life. He lived this notion in his own life, creating a school called "The Garden," where he and his followers studied philosophy together in a close-knit community.
Friedrich Nietzsche
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Nietzsche may have been a nihilist, but he still believed that there was one thing that truly made life worth living: The creation and enjoyment of art. Nietzsche was particularly fond of music, and loved to go see the operas of his German contemporary Richard Wagner (As he wrote, “Without music, life would be a mistake.")
He also said, “We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.”
William James
American psychologist and philosopher William James coined the term "will to believe" to refer to way that we are able to choose our attitudes and beliefs -- and in doing so, change our lives.
“Be not afraid of life," James wrote. "Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.”
Simone de Beauvoir
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Feminist thinker Simone de Beauvoir -- the longtime partner of Jean-Paul Sartre -- believed that caring for others was what gave life meaning.
“One's life has value so long as one attributes value to the life of others, by means of love, friendship, and compassion," she wrote.
Thomas Merton
American Catholic thinker and mystic Thomas Merton believed that we could all find happiness -- if only we looked to our inner wisdom.
“We have what we seek," said Merton. "It is there all the time, and if we slow down and be still, it will make itself known to us.”
Marcus Tullius Cicero
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For the Roman philosopher and politician Cicero, cultivating the intellect was essential to the good life. He once said that all you need in life is a garden and a library, and many times waxed poetic about his love of reading.
“Read at every wait; read at all hours; read within leisure; read in times of labor; read as one goes in; read as one goest out," said Cicero. "The task of the educated mind is simply put: read to lead.”

Which Headphone you want?

As beneficial as the right playlist can be to boosting your workout, the wrong pair of headphones can be equally detrimental. Maybe the sound is too tinny or the earbuds won't stay put. Maybe after a few sweat sessions they start to fall apart or, worse, smell bad. Every runner is different, but every runner who runs with music appreciates the beauty of the right pair of headphones.
While I'm no tech writer, I am a runner who listens to music -- and I most certainly sweat. Which is why I jumped at the chance to take some of the biggest names in the active headphone game out for a spin.
Before we get into my favorites, a few notes about how I conducted this oh-so-scientific test:
The Test Drive
I wore each pair of headphones during a 20- to 30-minute jog along the same stretch of the path along the Hudson River in New York City, at a moderate pace, while listening to the same 10 or so songs.
Two Types Of Quality
I rated sound quality on a scale of one to five, one being "meh", three being average and five being sensational. Durability also got a one to five score, with one being "handle with care" and five being "feel free to toss 'em in your gym bag."
Sound Isolation Isn't Always A Good Thing
When you're listening to music on, say, a long airplane flight, you're probably looking for something that blocks out all other sound. When you're listening to music on a run through a busy city, you need to be able to hear some of the important auditory cues around you. Experts call this "situational awareness." I prefer to drown out my own heavy breathing, but I have to be able to hear the bicyclists and drivers around me. I rated each set of headphones on a one to five scale here as well, but a three was the ideal. A one meant I could hear every surrounding sound, while a five meant I heard no surrounding sound, technically no good for a city runner.
Every Ear Is Different
Just like with running sneakers and sports bras, your experience with the headphones below will likely be somewhat different than mine. This review should be used merely as a guide, not the end-all-be-all.
These Are Not Your Average Headphones
You'll note that just about one of these headphones is affordable. But you get what you pay for, and, because many of the pricier models come with serious warrantees, they could be a worthwhile investment if you're willing to take good care of them.
Phone Calls
You can make or receive calls with most of these models. I didn't test out this feature -- mainly because most of my test runs occurred around 7 a.m., and I don't know many people who would really want to hear from me at that hour. For a review of making phone calls with a number of these models, as well as some really impressive testing methods that would have gotten me in big trouble, head over to The Wire Cutter's review from earlier this year.
Here's What I Found:


BOSE SIE2i
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Sound Quality: 5. I put these babies in and did an auditory double-take. So this is what I've been missing!
Noise Isolation: 3. I couldn't hear my panting, but I did hear a particularly loud air conditioner that I mistook for an approaching person!
Fit & Comfort: The StayHear tips fit snuggly under the ridge of your ear, just above the ear canal. A set includes three interchangeable StayHear pieces to accommodate a range of ear sizes. I expected to feel some pressure from the piece that slid under the ridge of my ear, but instead I felt... nothing! These are so light, at times I thought they were slipping out simply because I no longer felt them at all.
Cord Length: Shorter than usual, but the kit includes a cord extender if you prefer a little more length. There's also a clip about halfway down the cord that allows you to fasten extra length to your clothes and prevent bouncing. The SIE2i model is designed to operate with Apple devices, so I could adjust the volume and song order with the buttons on the headphones, as well as operate my phone via voice commands. There's also an SIE2 model that works with most other devices.
Durability: 4
The Sweating Situation: There was zero budge as my ears got slicker. The packaging calls these sweat- and weather-resistant, so you won't want to submerge them in water but you can certainly wipe 'em down.
Bells & Whistles: The headphones also come with a nifty Reebok armband, complete with a small pocket for a key.
Cost: $149.95 on the Bose website. If you just want the SIE2 model, those will set you back $119.95.


Philips ActionFit Sports Headband Headphones
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Sound Quality: 4.5. The bass was rich and heart-pounding, even at higher volumes.
Noise Isolation: 3. I expected to have to really crank up the volume, since on-ear models typically allow in more ambient noise, but these struck a good balance. I could hear the middle-aged couple running behind me approaching, which definitely pushed me to go faster.
Fit & Comfort: The ear cushions are plump and sumptuous, although I always wonder how makes like these will hold up over many, many sweaty hours, since I basically eroded a pair a few years back. They're incredibly lightweight and not too tight. The non-slip headband helped keep everything in place without squeezing, although I did get a little jiggle on one side.
Cord Length: A little long, but the included cord clip helps keep bounce to a minimum.
Durability:3. The cable is outfitted with a Kevlar coating to withstand any potential tears. The silicone headband doesn't seem easily breakable, although I do always worry slightly about snapping something that doesn't fold. The set comes with a pouch to carry them in, but it's just cloth.
The Sweating Situation: The ear cushions are detachable and washable, and the whole shebang is sweat-resistant and rainproof. Sweating didn't move these babies a millimeter.
Bells & Whistles: The on-ear design is the big perk here, since there aren't many non-earbud active options. Note that there's no remote on the cable, so you'll have to manage volume and track order from your device.
Cost: $99.99, according to the Philips website
Polk UltraFit 3000
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Sound Quality: 3.5. I wasn't completely blown away here, but I was definitely pleased.
Noise Isolation: 3. These were a happy medium of isolation and safety.
Fit & Comfort: With three sizes of silicone ear tips, two pairs of three-tiered silicone ear tips that I found were the best shape for my ears and two pairs of memory foam tips for additional sound isolation (save those for the treadmill), you'd be hard-pressed to not find some combination that works for you. Once I found the right option, I could hardly feel 'em. The over-the-ear section is flexible and bendable, but secures nicely in place and doesn't bounce while running.
Cord Length: Also customizable! The set comes with a 14-inch cable and a 41-inch cable, although only the latter has a remote control. The remote was kind of a dud, though: The volume controls worked fine, but it was nearly impossible to use the central button to change the song. I found myself fumbling and frustrated more than once.
Durability: 5. These also has a Kevlar-enhanced cord for serious lasting power. They also come with a compact carrying case, and the bendable design eliminates fear of snapping.
The Sweating Situation: The Polk website explains that these are protected by "moisture shield technology" that "deflects and resists moisture". They also didn't budge when I got sweaty.
Bells & Whistles: The customization is the big perk here. These are designed to operate with Apple products, but the very similar UltraFit 3000a offer an option for Android users, too.
Cost: $79.95 according to the Polk website


AfterShokz Sportz M2
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Sound Quality: 2. The unique design of these headphones, which sit on the jawbone right in front of your ear, is meant to send "stereophonic sound" to the inner ear via the cheekbones. Really. That means that a lot of the sound is projected outward, rather than into the ear, to allow for situational awareness (more on that below), but to me it sounded thin.
Noise Isolation: 2. Situational awareness is top priority for the Sportz 2. They err on the side of delivering on their message, while compromising sound quality to do so.
Fit & Comfort: Despite the snug fit against my jawbone and the wraparound band, I hardly felt them after I got going, and they didn't move an inch.
Cord Length: The cord length is about average, but in place of the typical remote control, the AfterShokz have an "in-line controller" that's significantly bulkier and heavier. It's meant to be clipped to your shirt, but even so it bounced and pulled.
Durability: 5. The wraparound band is a light but firm plastic, and the kit comes complete with a sturdy carrying case, which makes tossing it in your gym bag pretty fail-proof.
The Sweating Situation: The box calls these sweat-proof and water-resistant, so I felt good about running with them in the drizzle. When my face got sweaty, they didn't slip or slide.
Bells & Whistles: The in-line controller allows you to make calls and adjust the volume, but there's no feature that allows you to skip songs. These headphones need to be charged via USB, but you're good to go for 12 hours after a full charge.
Cost: $69.95 on the AfterShokz website


Monster iSport Freedom
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Sound Quality: 3.5. And apparently they only get better: The user's manual says to break them in (really!) and that they'll sound best after about 20 hours of playback.
Noise Isolation: 5. They are not kidding about the noise isolation touted on the packaging. Save these for your treadmill runs -- I was actually startled a couple of times when cyclists zoomed past me.
Fit & Comfort: The ear cushions are luxurious, but even after repositioning the headband a couple of times, I kept hearing the bounce of my own footsteps, thanks to what's known as the occlusion effect. You know that annoying amplification of internal sounds, like chewing, when you're wearing headphones? Yeah, not good.
Cord Length: Wireless -- hence the "Freedom" name! Charge them for about an hour and a half before you hook 'em up to your phone via Bluetooth, and you're good for about 10 hours of sound.
Durability: 3. These headphones are collapsible, so you can essentially fold them in half to prevent snapping in your gym bag. But they're still bulkier and a little stiffer than other models I tried, so I'd handle with a little extra TLC. They do come with a convenient carrying pouch, but it's nothing protective.
The Sweating Situation: Since they're water-resistant and sweat-proof, I felt safe getting sweaty in these, and reassured by the fact that I could wipe down the ear cushions after. Sweat didn't seem to change how they bounced.
Bells & Whistles: This is Monster's first iSport model that sits on top of the ear, a welcome addition to the (skimpy) pool of options for people who aren't big fans of in-ear headphones. The on-ear controls allow you to conveniently change the song and volume and take calls -- once you get used to them, that is, as you can't exactly see what you're pressing!
Cost: $279.95, available in the U.S. in October, according to Monster reps


Jaybird Bluebuds X
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Sound Quality: 4. Really great, without having to crank up the volume.
Noise Isolation: 3.5. Still safe, but on the side of more isolating than you might be comfortable with. The plus side was that I didn't have to turn the volume up to get a good sound, so I felt safe running on the street.
Fit & Comfort: These earbuds are extremely customizable. The kit comes with three different sizes of ear tips, plus three different sizes of what's called Secure Fit Ear Cushions, which are tucked under the folds of your ears for maximum hold. The buds can be worn both over and under the ears, and the wraparound cable can be shortened with tiny cord clips around the back of your head. The over-the-ear style is a little more advanced and trickier to set up, so I stuck with the under-ear style. It took a few minutes to get used to the pressure of the ear cushions, but after the first five minutes of my run I was in love.
Cord Length: Wireless! They connect with your iPhone via Bluetooth, leaving you free to move as you please. The wraparound cord is not long at all, especially after adjusted to fit your head, and didn't bounce much as I ran.
Durability: 5. The Bluebuds come equipped with a solid carrying case, but even without them, the materials are pretty sturdy, and I would have no problem throwing them into a gym bag.
The Sweating Situation: The box boasts a "lifetime warranty against sweat" thanks to Liquipel Water Repellant Nano Technology. Don't dunk 'em in the tub, but feel free to get sweaty in these bad boys. Mine didn't slip whatsoever.
Bells & Whistles: Aside from the many, many ways in which to wear these, they also have a remote control on the cord so you don't have to fumble with your phone while you run. The Bluebuds are the official training headphones of the USA Triathlon, so you know they're legit. After a full charge, you should be good to go for eight hours of music.
Cost: $169.95 on the Jaybird website


Shure SE215
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Sound Quality: 3.5. I wanted more bass, to be honest.
Noise Isolation: 5. These headphones are not technically designed for exercise, but judging by online reviews, a number of people swear by them. They deliver on their promise to be sound isolating, a feature indoor exercisers may love, but one that left me uncomfortable on the sidewalk.
Fit & Comfort: The earbuds come equipped with six different tips, three sizes in silicone and three sizes in foam. They're a little difficult to put in, but when inserted properly they fit snugly like an earplug. The over-the-ear cord is a nice touch that added to the comfort of this pair, but the buds started to slip out of my ear as I moved. Because they require a little more attention than normal to insert, it wasn't easy to correct them while running.
Cord Length: Too long and too heavy, with no clips and no remote control on the cord.
Durability: 4. The kit comes with a compact carrying case to keep them safe in a bag.
The Sweating Situation: Not great. The Shure rep insisted that these are sweat-proof, but there's no mention of it on the packaging or website, except to say to keep the headphones as dry and as a clean as possible... whoops.
Bells & Whistles: The sound isolation is really the big draw here, but I wouldn't recommend them for outdoor runners.
Cost: $99, according to the Shure website


Beats by Dre Powerbeats
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Sound Quality: I was so looking forward to trying these, given all the Beats by Dre hype, but they were only a 3.5 to me.
Noise Isolation: A solid 3. The Powerbeats website highlights road running safety and doesn't disappoint.
Fit & Comfort: There's a little too much going on here. While I appreciate the small, medium and large buds, once the small ones were in my ears, the rest of the headphones felt bulky and in the way. The over-the-ear loop is flexible so you can secure the headphones as loosely or tightly as you please, but I had to make them tighter than I'd prefer to truly eliminate bounce. I could tell that had I worn these for closer to an hour, my ears would be tired of them.
Cord Length: Perfect. And for bigger bodies -- like Lebron James, who teamed up with Dre to craft these -- there's also a cord extender included in the set. There's a handy clip to keep some of the excess out of the way, and the cord has volume and voice controls. The settings were on the left side, a departure from what I'm used to, which threw me off slightly.
Durability: 4. These were designed with durability in mind, according to the Powerbeats website. Since the over-the-ear loops are flexible, there's less worry about them snagging in your gym bag. The set also includes a slim but sturdy carrying case.
The Sweating Situation: Once securely fastened in place, these aren't going anywhere -- but they sacrifice comfort slightly to do so. They're also sweat- and water-resistant, and the ear tips can be removed for regular cleaning.
Cost: $134.95 on the Beats by Dre website 


Yurbuds Inspire Talk for Women
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Sound Quality: 2.5. Without a doubt, the lower price point means lower-quality sound. There wasn't much bass and the sound overall wasn't as clear as some of the higher-end models. That said, they still do the job, and the other perks below make these a smart pick.
Noise Isolation: 3. The unique shape of these earbuds was designed specifically to allow ambient noise in so you stay aware during your workout.
Fit & Comfort: Thanks to patent-pending Twist Lock technology, the Yurbuds shouldn't budge. You insert the "sound tunnel" part of the bud, then twist the whole earpiece into place. They felt snug without feeling too tight. The set also includes a larger earbud, and the Inspire for Men is larger still, also with two different sizes.
Cord Length: Medium to long, but so lightweight I hardly noticed. The men's kit comes with a cord clip, but not the women's.
Durability: 5. The earbuds themselves are soft and squishy, so I wouldn't worry about tossing them around, and the cord has lots of give. If you're looking for a little extra on the durability front, the Yurbuds Duro have a cloth cord that purports to be tangle- and tear-resistant -- with a lifetime warranty.
The Sweating Situation: The buds are sweat-, water- and germ-resistant and don't budge when the going gets sweaty.
Bells & Whistles: This set has a one-button remote control on the cord that allows for making phone calls, stopping and starting the music and switching to the next song -- and they're compatible with iPhone, Android and Blakckberry devices. The Inspire Pro (available in both men's and women's sizes) has a three-button remote that also allows you to adjust the volume (it costs more). There's also a cheaper model sans remote. The men's package included a slim carrying case, but no such luck for the ladies.
Cost: $39.99, according to the Yurbuds website. The Pro model for both men and women is $59.99, and the original is $29.99.


Sennheiser adidas PMX 685i Sports
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Sound Quality: A solid 4. But because of the fit, I had to keep turning the volume up, to a point where it got a little uncomfortable.
Noise Isolation: Situational awareness is highlighted on the website for this pair, which would be a solid 3, but since I had increased the volume quite a bit, they felt more like a less ideal 4.
Fit & Comfort: These headphones are so surprisingly lightweight. The wraparound style can often add weight and pull on the ears, but I hardly felt these. The actual ear buds felt too large for my ears, and sat lower and farther outside the ear than I'm used to. Still, they stayed put when I ran.
Cord Length: A little long and a little inflexible, but the movable cord clip helped keep some of that out of the way. The remote control was once again on the left.
Durability: By default, wraparound styles seem slightly more delicate thanks to that plastic band threatening to snap at any moment. Because this make is so delightfully lightweight, the band seems even more flimsy, so I'd give it a 2.
The Sweating Situation: I felt okay taking these out for a spin during a light drizzle, since they are sweat- and water-resistant. They didn't move because of my sweating or the weather.
Bells & Whistles: Designed to operate with Apple products, I could take calls via the control on the cord along with changing the song. The headset is also designed to fit comfortably beneath a bike helmet.
Cost: $79.95, according to the Sennheiser website


Klipsch Image A5i Sport In-Ear Headphones
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Sound Quality: 4. At a moderate volume, the sound is superb, easily a 5. But when I pumped up the volume to where I'd ideally keep it for maximum motivation, the sound got a little thin.
Noise Isolation: 5. Yikes. I didn't hear a bike coming up behind me until the front wheel was at my heels. I kept the volume significantly lower than I typically would so it didn't happen again. I'd recommend these strictly for treadmill runs.
Fit & Comfort: To die for. The patented oval ear tips -- which come in four sizes -- really make a difference when it comes to forming a tight and snug seal in your ear. The earbud is attached by a flexible wire that allows you to bend and shape it into the right angle for your ear, while the over-the-ear loop keeps the rest of the design snug. I couldn't feel them at all once they were in.
Cord Length: A little long, and slightly heavy thanks to the remote control. Luckily, the cord clip is attached to the remote, so you can fasten that heaviest part to your shirt to avoid excess pulling on your ears.
Durability: 5. The kit comes with a carrying case, but this was one of the few pairs I tried that I didn't even think needed it. And if the Kevlar cord doesn't convince you, the two-year warranty might!
The Sweating Situation: These earbuds are moisture- and sweat-resistant, so feel free to wipe 'em down after a tough workout. As I got sweatier, they thankfully stayed right in place.
Bells & Whistles: Designed to operate with Apple products, you can adjust volume, switch songs and take calls with the three-button remote. There's a neat little looping system on the front of the headphones that allows you to tuck excess cord around the bottom of your ears for a snugger, more bounce-free fit that I haven't seen on other models.
Cost: $129.99, according to the Klipsch website

What's your favorite pair of workout headphones? Let us know in the comments below. And while you're at it, let us know what else we should try -- we're your guinea pigs, after all!

Why SunGlasses Needed?

What You Don't Know About Sunglasses Could Hurt You

An Informative Article by Huffington
Any health savvy person knows by now that one of the best ways to protect your body from harmful UV rays is to slather on the SPF -- but you might be forgetting one important part: your eyes.
"Obviously you can't put sunscreen on them," says Anne Sumers, M.D., a spokesperson for the American Academy of Ophthalmology who is in private practice in Ridgewood, New Jersey. "[Sunglasses are] the only way to protect your eyes."
Exposing your peepers to the sun could trigger a host of serious health problems, including painful sunburns and cataracts. What's worse, buying sunglasses can be a complicated, cryptic process (what do those labels mean, anyhow?). So we asked Sumers and William Brown, O.D., Ph.D., of the department of ophthalmology at the Mayo Clinic, to help us break down what's happening to the naked eye when it's exposed to the sun -- and exactly how to choose the right sunglasses to protect it.

Infographic by Jan Diehm for the Huffington Post.
Both experts caution that wearing sunglasses is particularly important for kids, who still have a whole lifetime of UV exposure ahead of them. Plus, even more UV light reaches children's retinas compared to older people, according to Brown.
It's also important to note that this graphic looks at how the sun affects eye health, not indoor tanning booths -- these beds canproduce UV levels up to 100 times of that of the sun. They're best avoided (for reasons beyond eye health), but if you're going to use them it's imperative to sport protective goggles (closing your eyes won't do the trick).
And no matter how good your eye protection, never look directly into the sun, especially during an eclipse. "It's much the same effect as taking a magnifying lens and focusing the sun onto a piece of paper," Brown says. "You can actually set the paper on fire."

The One Thing That Will Completely Boost Your Focus

The One Thing You're Not Doing That Will Completely Boost Your Focus

benefits of quiet

For many of us, true silence only comes when we close our eyes and turn in for the night.
Even when we're "listening," our minds churn an inner dialogue: We're deciding what we'll say next, contemplating the way the speaker's mouth is moving, thinking about what's for lunch.
A healthy fix of silence -- whether its a week-long retreat or a few, simple moments focusing on the breath -- could do you some good.
In many eastern traditions, Mauna, or observing silence, is an integral practice: Not speaking, and turning inward is thought to bring peace, clarity and spiritual purity. And in the west, even during secular events, we practice "moments of silence," to respect and reflect. 

And in our hyper-connected, buzzing world where there's a constant soundtrack to our lives (be it a whizzing car, the bark of a dog or the low hum of a computer at work) you'll have to seek silence deliberately in order to reap its benefits. But, you'll find it to be worth the effort: Your relationship with quiet -- and the act of restoring -- could improve your skills when it comes to work, friendships and happiness.
To start, creative types swear by it. In her book, The Creative Habit, Twyla Tharp writes about a soprano who had to give up speaking for three weeks to allow her strained vocal cords to recuperate. The opera singer enjoyed the forced silence so much, Tharp recounts, that she turned going mute into an annual ritual.
"It's not only a rest of her chief artistic-muscle -- her voice -- it's also a stark reminder of the difference between what's worth saying and what isn't. It's the perfect editor for the creative soul." Tharp herself challenges those in search of a creative spark to go on a speaking diet.
Creativity, as writer Mark McGuinness puts it, is a "side-effect" of meditation: In silence, you gain perspective on what matters, and can more comfortably do away with the nonesense. "When you spend time just being present and observing your breath, thoughts, feelings, and moment-to-moment experience, you start to realize how trivial most of our daily worries really are. Even in the midst of the daily grind, you can let go of the small stuff, and keep the big picture in view."
Silence could be therapeutic.Bruce Davis, Ph.D., self-identified "silence freak," and author of Simple Peace, says we need silence for our sanity. "The level of noise that we live with really closes us down. People have very little peace and quiet," he told The Huffington Post. "Silence is not just no noise -- silence is peace and quiet. And peace and quiet is very beautiful."
Davis holds week-long, silent retreats in Assisi, Italy for people to experience life without the noise. "As a psychologist, this is what I think is perfect therapy," he says. "When you find peace and quiet, you think more clearly, feel more clearly and the body heals itself."
Most people don't know what to do with the "free" time that quiet offers. "Their lives are so busy and so structured," Davis explains. Part of healing requires something as simple as figuring out how you want to spend your afternoon -- without distraction to fall back on. That alone can be therapeutic.
Sister Geralyn Schmidt, who took a silent retreat structured similarly to the kind that Davis organizes, discovered that silence is a catalyst for focus. "I found myself observing the unique colors of the houses, the textures of the marble and the awesome samples of flora and fauna," she wrote on Powerful Learning Practice.
Schmidt is not alone in her experience: We've all felt the need for library-quiet when struggling to concentrate. But being in quiet, Davis says, take practice.
Being quiet can make you more thoughtful. As the saying goes, “In silence, we can hear our soul speak." Without the surface noise, the insignificant chatter will default to mute. "It's often the quiet ones who out-produce everyone else," Roberta Matuson wrote in Fast Company last year. You're able to complete a task, without the secondary, often distracting role of talking it out.
Silence can make you a better listener. We are "losing our listening," says Julian Treasure in his 2011 TED Talk, "5 Ways To Listen Better. There is plenty to be distracted by, and as a result our skill to really pay attention has weakened. "Listening is our access to understanding," Treasure explains. "Just three minutes a day of silence is a wonderful exercise to reset your ears and to recalibrate so that you can hear the quiet again. If you can't get absolute silence, go for quiet, that's absolutely fine."
Again, practice is important here. "Listening is one of the most difficult skills on the planet," Nicole Lipkin, author of "What Keeps Leaders Up At Night," told Business Insider. "It's very hard to stop your mind from wandering ... there are a lot of reasons why it's so hard for us. You can always tell when someone's not giving you their complete attention." Practicing quiet, whether through retreat, meditation or just a few minutes unplugged, can prepare you as a professional and a friend to really hear. 

Letter To The Woman I Love (poetry)

LOVE LETTER:

love letter
I thank God you came into my life.
Love brought you to me naturally.
You really convinced me that love exists.
Sweetheart, you're uniquely meant for me.
Gone are the days when you lived in my fantasies.
Gone are the days when your existence was debatable.
Gone are the days when I never knew the wonders of true love.
Gone are the days when true love was more of a tale than reality.
Your humor is all I need to turn a terrible day into a success story.
Your sweet voice is the melody I need to smile when times are hard.
Your natural beauty reveals the true value of who you really are inside.
Your kind tone is a true reflection of what makes a loving mother.
My love, be sure that your heart is definitely safe with me.
Lovely angel, you will always be my first choice naturally.
Lady of my heart, I will never leave your loving side.
Baby girl, you are everything I need in a woman.
I can sing, because your cute smile sings it all.
Love will talk, but you will do the speaking.
You light my life, because you are my light.
Honey, you've turned me into a prince.
If I could be given another chance to pick the right woman, you would be my only choice.
If life could allow me to select the best mother after my mother, I would choose you.
If I could get one more chance to pick the cutest flower on earth, I would naturally pick you.
If I had one opportunity to sing the sweetest song ever, I would proudly sing about you.
I love you, because you are the woman who defines endless love in my unique language.
I love you, because you are the sister I never had and can't afford to lose anytime.
I love you, because you have a beautiful soul which my loving mother had too.
I love you because you are a reasonable and sensible flower in my garden.
Even when I am sad, you are the smile deep inside my vulnerable soul.
Even when I am down, knowing you are there gives me true happiness.
Even when the world calls me sad names, you call me sweet pet names.
Even when everyone around me treats me badly, you hug me with true love.
Time will change many of my attributes, but my love for you will keep growing strong.
Circumstances will hit me hard, but your love will keep me safe in your ever-blazing tender care.
Can I recite any regrets? It's simply my failure to know you even earlier than I did!
Never will I fantasize about what my true love looks like, because you are here!
You have given me a reason to believe that my patience awaited cute fruits.
From now on, I will always remember to love you for who you are.
I love you, and I will always be around you..!